Five Feel-good Things To Do

Five Feel Good things to do

Ok, see here in Melbourne we’ve all been tricked a bit. Had the rug pulled from under us in the weather stakes. When I left the house this morning it was like 6C. On Thursday I took my laptop and sat outside and worked on my back deck – it was 22C!!! The sun was shining, I wore a dress and had bare legs!

Bare legs in August!!!

It’s much harder to take this cold snap, when the delights of Spring have been so tantalisingly close. We were whooping in celebration that the winter has passed, only to be plunged back in the following day with torrential rain and temperatures hovering at 10C.

So if you’re feeling like you’ve had the rug pulled from under you, right when you were rifling around for that bikini, here are five feel good things you can do. [Read more…]

The Stuff of Life: Balancing the Good With the Bad

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I’ve written before about how I write Morning Pages and how the act of writing out what I am thankful for has made a huge difference to my wellbeing. You know, sometimes you just wake up in a funk. My husband calls it waking up ‘with a bag on’ – meaning you feel like you’ve got a bag over your head. A little cryptic, but I think it describes how I sometimes feel.

On those days, this is when I benefit most from writing out my Morning Pages, but in particular, writing down the three things that I am thankful for. I’m not going down that path of banging on about practicing gratitude. It’s a bit over-talked I think, but I guess it’s because it works. It really can improve your outlook on life.  [Read more…]

My Top Five Things on My Summer Bucket List

Top 5 Summer Bucket List

 

The change of seasons is always full of promise. Even for the cold frogs who hate winter, it brings promise of roaring fires, red wine, curries, hot chocolate…But Summer is an entirely different promise. It means many different things, depending on what your life looks like. For many, it means al fresco dining (we have started eating outside most nights now), late play in the back yard, icey gin & tonics (probably a little too early in the afternoon), dresses without leggings or tights, and glorious beach afternoons.

I thought I’d document my bucket list for this Summer and capitalise on the feeling that when Summer comes, we can do anything. [Read more…]

I think I’ve found the issue…

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For some reason, 2015 has been weighing me down; I’ve felt claustrophobic at home, which prompted a major de-clutter. You can read about that here. And the thought of setting some goals and making a plan had the opposite effect, the only thing that went in to overdrive at thought of setting some goals, was avoidance! Read that one here.

Anyway, chronicling these little hurdles here, has helped a lot. And I’m making progress, but I still hadn’t been able to shake that heavy feeling, which I thought would lift once the cogs of daily life started turning again. But I think I’ve found the issue.

I had become way to earnest about, well, pretty much everything. I’d forgotten to factor in FUN!  I’d become preoccupied with these concepts that, if you pay attention to them, can improve your life, but if you forget the other essential ingredients, can leave you feeling a bit deflated.

Concepts like feeling calm in your home, making space, making plans and setting goals. These are all important for improving overall wellbeing, but if you don’t get the mix right, not much will improve.

I recently wrote an article (not yet published – but stay tuned) on incorporating an element of fun in to certain aspects of our lives. Reflecting on what I’d written I realised that was what was missing. I’d forgotten to have fun amongst all of this planning and reshuffling, so it all just felt like a chore.

Fun is necessary. It is oxygen for the soul, without it it won’t matter how purposeful your life is, you just won’t feel satiated. But fun is one of those things that can’t be planned for, or purposefully created. If you think back to when you were a child, fun was the over-riding raison d’etre, was it not?

Running under the sprinkler, rolling down hills, swinging on swings, climbing trees – it was all for the sake of having fun.

Once we become adults we are weighed down by adult things – going to work, paying bills, looking after family, paying the bills, going to work… So we become less open to opportunities for fun and more distracted by our grown-up commitments.

Sometimes we need to make the effort, and commit to having fun. I decided that I would buy myself a pair of roller-skates so I could skate with my eight-year-old daughter. It was one of my favourite things to do for years while I was growing up, and then I just stopped doing it. So I looked for roller-skates in the shops a couple of times after Christmas, but then, I just forgot about it. So I didn’t fully commit. So I’m calling myself out on this, and plan to get some this weekend.

Part of that commitment is putting ‘care-factor’ aside. There’ll be times when the grown-up me is worrying about the kids being tired tomorrow, or me being tired, or behind with my work, or the house needs to be tidied. There is always plenty to distract you away from having fun. I know I’m going to look a bit peculiar on roller-skates, but the possibility of fun needs to outweigh these issues sometimes.

So adding to my plans for 2015 is a commitment to FUN. Granted, fun is spontaneous – you can’t plan it, but when it comes to find me, I’ll be ready for it. I’ve learnt these past few weeks, being earnest is good, but having fun is better. Imminently better.

How do you have fun?

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