At the beginning of Summer, I posted my Summer Bucket list – listing a few of the things I wanted to do over the glorious summer months. I’m following that up with a post on how I went. So here goes:
Wearing a bikini (for the fist time in seven years!) – I did that. I was a little apprehensive, but once on, there was no going back. I immediately felt like myself again. I was a little self-conscious at first, but then I reminded myself that no one was actually looking at me. I’m embracing those things that liberate – this was right up there.
Marie Kondo – declutter the house – I’m not sure I can claim success on this one. Don’t get me wrong, I tried my darnedest. But I couldn’t entirely commit to Marie’s prescriptive methods: if it doesn’t ‘spark joy’ it gets ditched. There are many things in my house that don’t spark joy, but I really really want to keep. Like my Grandad’s Box Brownie camera – it doesn’t even work. While I don’t feel joy when I look at it, it brings me comfort. I think of him, and then I think of my Mum.
There are many things that I opted to keep for sentimental reasons, which ultimately is anti-Kondo. I still seek a less cluttered environment, but going through this process made me realise that I like much of my clutter – I surround myself in these things for a reason. And that reason is that they make me feel like me.
Each of these trinkets, these books, photos, or what ever the object might be, hold a story – a truth of sorts, which when layered together make up part of my story. Combine that with the things that my husband loves and our story then weaves itself together, and it all goes towards creating more layers, that are making our children’s stories.
I think for a place to have soul, there needs to be a little of those souls on display. So you won’t ever find me living in a minimalist space any time soon – these places reveal little, and perhaps hide much.
Beach Earthing – Yep. At every opportunity I would dig my feet in the sand and immediately feel its restorative properties going to work. The beach has a calming effect on each member of our family (and many more, I am sure too).
I’d really like to invest in an earthing sheet for winter, as I’ve noticed with the cooler weather (so, less frequent visits to the beach) I’m not feeling as tip top as I have been. It’s hard to measure if this is why, but one of my sisters and one of my brothers have invested in earthing sheets and are total earthing converts. They swear that it is worth every cent. Expensive though – at around $300 – $400 for a kit. I might have to ask the universe for that one. In the meantime – it’s the old fashioned way – feet firmly planted on the ground.
If you want to know more about earthing, you can see more here.
Make white space in my days – success and failure on this front. It’s easy to make white space when the whole family are on holidays. So we got off to a good start, but once school went back the white space disappeared completely – from right under our noses! I was so annoyed with myself for letting it happen but once I realised, it was too late and the kids had signed up for too many activities.
It was too much for all of us and I grew resentful as I spent between 3.30 and 6pm ferrying children to various activities – every day of the week!!! Lesson learned though. It won’t happen again. But the upside of this was that come the weekend, I refused any but the most necessary activities. The result was lovely slow Saturday afternoons, that stretched into slow Saturday evenings. The creative time that we all craved now had some space to emerge. I even did a painting, with plans to do more.
Autumn (and Term two) mark the beginning of a much slower pace for everyone.
While we still have after-school activities, it’s only two nights a week (as opposed to five). There is so much evidence to show that this is much more beneficial than cramming our children’s lives full of structured activities, which leaves no time for creativity or free-play. You can read more about that here.
Evening walks – well, yes and no. We have done some evening walks, but not nearly as much as I would have liked. This partly relates to the above – making white space. Once school went back we had an activity on every day, which left little time for leisurely evening walks – you’d find me punching the air if I managed to get the kids fed, washed and in bed for eight on school nights. So squeezing in a walk was more like a chore than a joy. So that goes on the WIP’ list.
I really enjoyed writing up my bucket list as it gave me a bit of focus for things that I want to achieve on the home front, and revisiting it and taking stock has made me realise a few things about myself – which is good.
I’m all for self-revelation and illumination.
Stay tuned for my Autumn bucket list, I’m feeling bread-baking and other warming activities calling me.
So how was Summer for you? Did you do something that liberated you or helped you learn a bit about yourself?