The Summer Bucket List – A Follow Up

At the beginning of Summer, I posted my Summer Bucket list – listing a few of the things I wanted to do over the glorious summer months. I’m following that up with a post on how I went. So here goes:

Wearing a bikini (for the fist time in seven years!) –  I did that. I was a little apprehensive, but once on, there was no going back. I immediately felt like myself again. I was a little self-conscious at first, but then I reminded myself that no one was actually looking at me. I’m embracing those things that liberate – this was right up there.

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Here’s the proof! My girls and I on the beach on Christmas Eve

Marie Kondo – declutter the house –  I’m not sure I can claim success on this one. Don’t get me wrong, I tried my darnedest. But I couldn’t entirely commit to Marie’s prescriptive methods: if it doesn’t ‘spark joy’ it gets ditched. There are many things in my house that don’t spark joy, but I really really want to keep. Like my Grandad’s Box Brownie camera – it doesn’t even work. While I don’t feel joy when I look at it, it brings me comfort. I think of him, and then I think of my Mum.

There are many things that I opted to keep for sentimental reasons, which ultimately is anti-Kondo. I still seek a less cluttered environment, but going through this process made me realise that I like much of my clutter – I surround myself in these things for a reason. And that reason is that they make me feel like me.

Each of these trinkets, these books, photos, or what ever the object might be, hold a story – a truth of sorts, which when layered together make up part of my story. Combine that with the things that my husband loves and our story then weaves itself together, and it all goes towards creating more layers, that are making our children’s stories.

I think for a place to have soul, there needs to be a little of those souls on display. So you won’t ever find me living in a minimalist space any time soon – these places reveal little, and perhaps hide much.

Beach Earthing – Yep. At every opportunity I would dig my feet in the sand and immediately feel its restorative properties going to work.  The beach has a calming effect on each member of our family (and many more, I am sure too).

I’d really like to invest in an earthing sheet for winter, as I’ve noticed with the cooler weather (so, less frequent visits to the beach) I’m not feeling as tip top as I have been. It’s hard to measure if this is why, but one of my sisters and one of my brothers have invested in earthing sheets and are total earthing converts. They swear that it is worth every cent. Expensive though – at around $300 – $400 for a kit. I might have to ask the universe for that one. In the meantime – it’s the old fashioned way – feet firmly planted on the ground.

If you want to know more about earthing, you can see more here.

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Make white space in my days – success and failure on this front. It’s easy to make white space when the whole family are on holidays. So we got off to a good start, but once school went back the white space disappeared completely – from right under our noses! I was so annoyed with myself for letting it happen but once I realised, it was too late and the kids had signed up for too many activities.

It was too much for all of us and I grew resentful as I spent between 3.30 and 6pm ferrying children to various activities – every day of the week!!! Lesson learned though. It won’t happen again. But the upside of this was that come the weekend, I refused any but the most necessary activities. The result was lovely slow Saturday afternoons, that stretched into slow Saturday evenings. The creative time that we all craved now had some space to emerge. I even did a painting, with plans to do more.

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Here’s my painting. I am super proud of it!

Autumn (and Term two) mark the beginning of a much slower pace for everyone.

While we still have after-school activities, it’s only two nights a week (as opposed to five). There is so much evidence to show that this is much more beneficial than cramming our children’s lives full of structured activities, which leaves no time for creativity or free-play. You can read more about that here.

Evening walks – well, yes and no. We have done some evening walks, but not nearly as much as I would have liked. This partly relates to the above – making white space. Once school went back we had an activity on every day, which left little time for leisurely evening walks – you’d find me punching the air if I managed to get the kids fed, washed and in bed for eight on school nights. So squeezing in a walk was more like a chore than a joy. So that goes on the WIP’ list.

I really enjoyed writing up my bucket list as it gave me a bit of focus for things that I want to achieve on the home front, and revisiting it and taking stock has made me realise a few things about myself – which is good.

I’m all for self-revelation and illumination.

Stay tuned for my Autumn bucket list, I’m feeling bread-baking and other warming activities calling me.

So how was Summer for you? Did you do something that liberated you or helped you learn a bit about yourself?

Comments

    • collette says

      It’s a sheet that you can put underneath your bed sheet – you plug it in to the wall, but don’t turn the power on. It’s meant to be the same as lying on the ground – you absorb all the ‘good things’ (highly technical description – I know) from the earth. I’ll post a link in the post for more info on earthing, if you’re interested.

  1. says

    I’m really interested in the earthing sheet too – never heard of it before! Great list, meanwhile. I definitely need more white space and have started trying to finish things before allowing myself to start new things. I deliberately didn’t buy the Marie Kondo book as I knew I wouldn’t be able to do it!

    • collette says

      You did well to have the foresight Rebecca, I thought Marie Kondo could change my life! The eternal optimist! I’ll post a link to an info page about earthing and the accessories you can get so you can keep earthing when it’s too cold. Might be useful in your part of the world. xx

  2. says

    I have never heard of an earthing blanket before, how interesting! Sounds like you managed to achieve quite a few things over summer- good on you! I’ve also attempted the Kondo method- I think like everything it’s ok to just take the pieces that work for you and forget the rest!

    • collette says

      The earthing sheet seems to have piqued people’s curiosity. I think I’ll do a post on Earthing to follow up. I love the idea that something so regenerative can be so accessible. Stand by for follow up post on Earthing. Thanks for stopping by.

  3. says

    I love your wrap up Collette. I am constantly in flux about minimalism and clutter so I can really relate to what you wrote. I have so many collections around the house but I hate clutter. Maybe I will take your advice and keep just enough to make me feel like me. Lovely.

    • collette says

      Dani, I think I’ve discovered why I can’t get to the bottom of my clutter – it involves a particular three year old! No matter what I do, or how much I remind her to put her toys away, the house is constantly peppered with spooky looking dolls wrapped in tea towels, Peppa Pig figurines and Peter Rabbit books. I shouldn’t complain really – if it keeps her off the iPad, then it’s worth it. xx

  4. says

    Good on you for putting on your bikini! I absolutely dread it and cover up as much as possible. I’d have to agree with you on displaying things with soul, my house is full of it. I’ve been to houses that feel so clinical, there’s no story to be told everywhere you look! Found you via Sarahdipity blog. Nice to meet you. x

      • collette says

        Lordy! Looks like my Insta has been hacked. Thanks for letting me know. Although I changed my username from CCIX to themorningdrum and it’s linked to my old user name. I’m not sure what I can do about that. But thanks for letting me know. I’ll investigate. x

    • collette says

      Hi Eva, thanks for stopping by. Yes, I’m definitely not one for the clinical look – it would never be possible in my house even if I was aspiring to it! I’ve had a little visit over to your blog, it’s lovely and I’m looking forward to having a good look at your posts tonight, once the kids are in bed and I’m enjoying my wine and peace and quiet. Nice to meet you to. xx

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