You Don’t HAVE to be Amazing…

Why Be Normal When you can be Amaaazing


I read a great article by Mark Manson the other day. It was called ‘Screw finding your passion’. It resonated with me so much. People out there are torturing themselves over finding this elusive thing called ‘their passion’. He offers some great advice – have a read of the article here.

But what it sparked in me, and it’s something that I’ve wanted to write about for a while, is that it is OK not to be Amaaaazing. It’s ok to just be, well, normal…and average. Like most of us are. We are harangued by an avalanche of images in the media of fit, gorgeous bodies (and this is not just women, it is men as well). Gorgeous people doing fabulous things. But life just isn’t like that; the sad thing about the curated world that surrounds us, is that it might inspire some but mostly it just makes people feel a bit shitty, and a bit not good enough.

Even the likes of Facebook and Instagram, which we are all guilty of curating the story of what our lives look like, will make you feel a bit crap. Looking at your Instagram posts and thinking ‘wow, my life looks great’ but knowing really that maybe things aren’t that fab; this can make you feel shit.

Image courtesy via Pinterest (courtesy of someecards)

Having said that, I don’t want to see pictures of you with vegemite smeared over your dressing gown and your kid having a melt down, there really isn’t much appetite for that, I’d say. And we are aspirational beings, in that we seek to better, to further and to grow our selves. But how do we get the balance right?

Often when someone looks to be this incredibly beautiful, high achieving, intelligent and wealthy person, chances are it’s because they have created and curated that image and more than likely, just as with every other person, there are cracks beneath the surface.

Also, often we project our beliefs on to someone else. 

Last week I featured Nicole McDonald – the creative source behind The Eco Collective. She was overwhelmed and surprised by what I’d written about her. From her perspective she was doing doing her ‘thang’; not trying to be something, just doing what inspires her.

Which brings me back to Mark Manson’s article – he talks about people writing to him and asking ‘how do I find my passion’. He says: go out and do the things you like doing. Do the things you enjoy – your passion lies there. As we saw when we read about Nicole.

But the other point I want to make is that, if you are lucky enough to find ‘your passion’, you don’t have to make a career out of it. You don’t have to make any money out of it at all. You can just be normal and average and just do stuff that you like doing. Weird huh?

Not at all.

Soon, I’m going to paint a picture for above our bed. I have no intention of doing anything else with this painting, other than hanging it on my wall. I’ve always drawn and used pastels, but using paint is new for me. I love the escape that creativity brings me. That’s enough for me. I get enough out of the actual practice of art to make me feel great. And satiated.

But if bush walking is your thing, go. Or cycling, or movies… whatever it is. Go do it. 

Doing things that you love doing, without worrying about money, will satiate your soul.  Then you really will be Amaaaaazing! But you won’t really care if any one knows it. So…

What's your thing?


  1. Laura says

    Ah so true Collette!
    I like making things, collecting way too much fabric and yarn that overfill cupboards and draws. I’ve compared myself to a hoarder of fabrics and yarns at time (my husband would agree). I race ahead from project to project. Some I finish, some I don’t, some I gift and frankly some I never come back to other than to analyse and say “I had a go”, it keeps me sane. My “passion” is to be my own version of being “creative” and not some crap that someone else is dishing out on Instagram. I make things for the love of it, to learn new skills and reaquaint myself with old ones. I love doing my “thing”. As a middle aged mother of two, I still don’t know what I want to do with my life and I’m not living my passion because really at the end of the day, I’m grateful that I’m alive, have a wonderful family. I’m going with flow and I feel so much better for it, that’s MY passion.

    • collette says

      Laura, exactly what I was trying to say and your comment is the perfect case study. Isn’t it so much more fulfilling than trying to run a race that you’ll never win, because it has no winner. I’d love to see some of your projects. xx

  2. says

    I often think about this, Collette. The vast majority of us are just average, ordinary people. We are all unique but for most of us life is about loving those close to us, ensuring we are warm, clothed and fed, and, hopefully, finding an interest that brings us joy. I think if we can do that, that is probably amazing enough. And yet we can have such a difficult time realising this. We compare ourselves to the tiny handful of people who are ‘amazing’ – some genuinely so and some more doubtfully so. And we’re fed the line that we can be ‘amazing’ too. If you dream it can do it, turn your passion into your job, all that sort of stuff. Do we really need to be that ‘aspirational’? Perhaps it is preferable to aspire to just ‘be’.

    • collette says

      I love that – aspiring just to ‘be’. It would definitely make for a more peaceful life, and I’m all for a peaceful life!

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